Shout out to my trans and enby ace’s who are trying to figure out how to feel at the moment. Asexual Awareness Week is usually a time for us to feel proud about who we are, but right now with the trump administration trying to erase trans identities on a legal level, it can be hard to celebrate.
It’s not wrong if you feel like you can’t enjoy Ace Awareness Week at all because of what’s going on politically. That is totally understandable and I hope you’re taking care of yourself this week.
It’s not wrong if you want to focus on celebrating Asexual Awareness Week right now and deal with your emotions surrounding what’s happening politically later. Sometimes when bad things happen we need to focus on celebrating something else in order to not feel broken. The need for activism will still be here when AWW is over, so go enjoy your week.
It’s not wrong if you’re feeling a mix of upset and celebration. People can feel more than one thing at a time, that’s okay, just take care not to get emotional whiplash and I hope you take some time to be kind to yourself this week when you’re mind is focused on politics.
We’re all having different responses to this and that’s alright. Take care of yourselves and if people need to talk my ask box is open. 💙💜
A mini-list of words, items, or symbols you might find in asexual atmospheres: (____ can be substituted with -sexuality or -romanticism)
Aces – As in, from a deck of cards. Used as a basic symbol, especially the ace of spades.
Abro____ – Attraction that changes and fluxuates
Aceflux – Sexual attraction that changes and fluxuates
Aroflux – Romantic attraction that changes and fluxuates
Alloace – Shorthand for Alloromantic Asexual
Aroace – Shorthand for Aromantic Asexual
Autochoris____ – Attraction with a disconnect between oneself and the source of arousal, with little to no desire to participate
Allosexual/Zedsexual – Someone who feels sexual attraction
Alloromantic/Zedromantic – Someone who feels romantic attraction
Black Ring – A black ring is most commonly worn on the right middle finger to signify asexuality
Celibate – Someone who does not engage in sexual activity. Separate from sexual orientation.
Cupio____ – No attraction is felt, but there is a desire for a relationship
Demi_____ – Attraction that only develops after already having another kind of bond
Fray____ – Attraction that is initially strong, but tends to fade after forming a bond
Grey____ – Attraction that falls on the spectrum between Allo____ and A____
Hyposexual – Low sex drive
Litho____ – Attraction with no desire for reciprocation
Queerplatonic Relationship – A non-romantic relationship based on platonic love that is stronger than friendship
Sex-Neutral/Sex-Indifferent – Someone who is sex-neutral/indifferent may participate in sex for others benefit, but don’t really get anything out of it
Sex-Positive/Sex-Favorable – Someone who is sex-positive enjoys sex
Sex-Repulsed/Sex-Averse – Someone who is sex-repulsed is put off by the very idea of sex, grossed out, or plainly just doesnt like sex
Squish – An aromantic crush, a desire for a platonic relationship with someone
Varioriented – When your sexual orientation and romantic orientation aren’t the same, i.e. Aromantic pansexual, heteroromantic asexual, or biromantic homosexual. etc.
Volit____ – Attraction directed at no one in particular
Feel free to message me for more details or suggest additions to my list!
So, as an asexual person myself, I’ve decided to give some reminders for all you lovely ace people.
You are valid
You are real
You are a part of the LGBT community
You can have a fulfilling relationship without sex
If you feel like you aren’t fulfilling your partner because you don’t have sex, you are wrong, your partner would not be with you if they didn’t feel fulfilled
Although, if your partner claims they aren’t fulfilled because you aren’t having sex with them, dump their ass and find someone who respects you
You can be ace no matter your age, gender, race, etc.
IT’S OKAY TO BE ACE AND LIKE SEX
IT’S OKAY TO BE ACE AND LIKE SEX
IT’S OKAY TO BE ACE AND LIKE SEX
You do not have to be aromantic to be ace (I’m a biromantic ace myself)
However, aro-ace people are just as valid
You are not obligated to explain the nuances of your asexuality to anyone unless you’re planning to have sex with them
TW – SEXUAL ASSAULT
Having been assaulted is not always why you’re asexual, but sometimes, having been assaulted is why you’re asexual. Both are valid. (change made here because what I wrote earlier wasn’t phrased well)
TW OVER
You are not “broken”
You are not a “prude”
Demisexuals, Greysexuals, Cupiosexuals, and anyone else on the ace spectrum are also valid
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